15 out of 10 people ask this question quite often (Half of them ask this twice, once while meeting and then leaving). Yes, this is the most Frequently asked question FAQ from a married couple and their family. After how many months or years of marriage, it depends on the different types of stimulating social elements (ailments) around. In simple words, frequency of the concern for pregnancy depends on how busy are the aunties around…
The moment that married girl, her mother in law or her mom happens to be at a get together (good or bad) the first thing asked after getting a comfortable opportunity is Any Good News???
Which clearly means, post marriage expectations from you did not only include, diving into different feet, being dressed up, relishing everything made at home, laughing on silly jokes, asking about tea from everyone, minimizing phone usage, maximizing the usage of ‘hanji’, keeping your room prim and prom, waking up early, never leaving your wrists empty etc etc but also most importantly it included, having a baby ASAP!
You doubt??? How can you??? What else did you get married for??? You thought to have a life partner, awww poor girl, it was to make babies and to contribute in growing India (and its population)…
I know it isn’t anything to laugh on, but do these askers know? Have they ever thought logically about this affection and care loaded question? A couple who is married since a year or more,doesn’t have a baby. There can be only two possible reasons; they dont want to have it right now or they are not able to have it right now. In both the situations asker’s concern for a good news turns out to be pathetically irritating for the couple.
A couple trying to conceive but not able to, replies, ‘We aren’t planning!’ Coz they dont want to disclose their medical concern and finds it easier to get counselled to have a baby, which tends to hurt them more. The other couple who isn’t planning right now, is sick of the lectures and plans not to attend the gatherings. Still if its a complusion then, replies to the ever asked question as, ‘Sure sure aunty ji, you are absolutely right’ as if ‘Your wish is my command ma’am, note the date, we are goin to have a blast tonight…‘ Then there are the rarest who assemble all there audacity and say, ‘Its kind of personal matter.’ And here they are tagged as Anti-social. Trust you me if they gathered the courage to say this, they are not much bothered about SOCIETY.
Askers need to understand, if a couple doesn’t want to have a baby right now, then the so called counselling would work no wonders and if they are not able to, they must be checking out a doctor, that expert advice is not required though.
Why in our society, a couple living happily with their family or even if alone is not considered to be a complete family? (No offence to complete family holders, respect to all the parents)
Why a married girl’s promotion or achievement call stated as Good News is always mistaken as having a baby?
Why is it that a married girl puking or falling sick can only be a symptom of being pregnant? It can be hangover too…
Who decided that ‘right age‘ of being parents?
When did you last ask someone about their innerwear’s colour? Having a baby is more personal…
So, next time you ‘askers‘ ask for a good news, please be ready, as the Beckham girls these days might bend your question and give you a toss by saying;
Well, I am not sure. Do you happen to be a vaginal prober to do a verbal ultrasound right away?
My equation with existence of Parenthood says, ‘Be a parent when your heart, mind, body, soul and partner is ready… coz its no social obligation’