Lying on my bed and watching the most epic romantic movies along with that endearing fragrance of rain pouring outside… What else one can ask for?
But, I have realised something for sure, these situations, movies, bollywood songs etc lead us to an unrealistic world and then when we put a condition on our love that it must be unconditional… Seriously??? Why is it tagged that an unconditional love is the only form of true love.
Imagine yourself in a situation where you demand from your love that, ‘If you tell me what is bothering you, then only I will tell you my secret’. Yes you put a condition, an if, here but does this mean that your love isn’t true enough? Trust me, this indicates you are deeply yet smartly in love 😉
We come across ample situations like this in our relations,however, we still run towards conditioning our love with anti-expectations coating.
Wait, was that expectations and conditions both in the same thought? The thin line between expectations and conditioning is strong enough to stand between two people.
Expectations do lead to pain but don’t you think that they are a mirror to our relations.
A mother doing everything humanly possible for her children expecting respect and care…
A father working day and night expecting his son to stand and support him as his friend…
A sibling who stands always as a best friend expecting a secret to remain a supportive secret…
Do these expectations indicate a weak bond in the family???
A boy friend lending his each and every dream to his girl, expecting endless support and lifetime relation…
Is this anywhere against our social love theories???
A husband trying hard to fulfil all the desires of her princess, expecting his partner to be as mature as his mother and as bubbly as his teen girl friend…
Does this indicate that their love isn’t true or lasting???
Expectations are a vital part of love so,what do we have to worry for? The need of the time is to understand the difference between materialistic expectations and conditions vs. love struck ones… but if you put a condition; discontented expectations will lead to drying of love in a relation, here you hurt yourself with this myth.
Expectations are fundamental for relations, we must only know What, When, How much and with Whom?